kids to comfort, husbands to love, dishes to wash, laundry to run, bathrooms to clean, dinners to cook, a
perfect image to keep up….. Well, here are a few things you need to know about self-care and some
easy ways to put yourself back on top again.
Let’s start with a little story, shall we? A few times a year, this mommy gets sick. When I get sick, it’s
usually a doozy. Dishes and laundry pile up, the kids don’t get baths, and everything plus everyone is
stinky. But every single time I get sick, I lie on the couch thinking of all the things I have to be doing but
can’t be doing! It drives me insane! I can’t even rest when my body is physically keeping me down!
It’s always a striking reminder to me that I need to take care of myself regularly. If I spent more time
resting, prioritizing my life, and handing off a few things to my hubby, I wouldn’t get sick as much.
Not getting sick means I can accomplish my daily to dos and lose the anxiety that comes with not being
able to do the things I have to do.
“And He said to them, “Come aside by yourselves to a deserted place and rest for a while.’ For there were many coming and going, and they did not have time to eat.” – Mark 6:31
God even speaks of the importance of self-care in the Bible! Jesus often took care of his spiritual needs
by finding space away from others and praying. God even provides us with direction in taking care of
He tells us how to take care of our bodies, minds, and spirits in order to live a peaceful and fulfilling life.
He also stresses the importance of spending time with Him to have a constant reminder of who we are
and who we were meant to be in Christ.
“Now in the morning, having risen a long while before daylight, He went out and departed to a solitary place, and there He prayed.” Mark 1:35
Lately, the less time I give to myself on purpose starts to become more time I give to myself by
accident. I am exhausted (because 2 kids and running a household is a lot for one person!) which
means I slow down, fall asleep on the couch, and choose to watch TV so I can stop using my brain for a
But if I prioritize and schedule time for myself, life runs so much more smoothly. I choose to take better
care of myself physically, I am a much nicer person to be around, and I feel happier. All of these
good feelings lead to good feelings in my family. It also leads to more work getting done because I have
Odd concept, right? Make time for the things you enjoy and get more work done? Whaaa??
“Or do you not know that your body is the temple of Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.” – 1 Corinthians 6:19-20
It’s true! Here are a few easy ways to make yourself a priority and help your life run super
smoothly. Now, I say easy because if you can follow a schedule, these tips are easy. But here’s the
thing….someone has to do the scheduling. *gasp*
All you have to do is schedule the time you would like for yourself and follow that schedule. Easy
enough, right? I know you can do it, and I believe in you guys! So let’s begin.
Take breaks throughout the day
Some days are really rough, and those “sleeping baby” breaks that are usually filled with doing dishes or
folding laundry are soon filled with mommy eating Cheetos on the couch watching Gossip Girl. This is no
help to anyone, and it only pushes the chores further behind than they are already. But if you pick a few
days a week when you can let the dishes sit a little longer so you can have a mental vacation, it will be
worth it. You will feel more refreshed when your babes wake up, and you won’t feel guilty about it.
Plus, since your break is planned, you can get everything you need to get done at a different point in
Eat right and exercise
This may seem like some kind of doctor’s tip, but let me tell you, I am much more energetic and on point
when I have been eating healthier meals and exercising. I do have to schedule my exercising, though,
and that can be challenging. Lately, when hubby gets home, I take 30 minutes to exercise. Sometimes, I
strap baby to me for an added workout. Some days I take a walk with the kids so my husband doesn’t
have to watch the kids all of the time. I take pleasure in the fact that I am releasing pent up anxiety
from the day, but also, I am showing my kids that exercising is important. Hey, if I can be a role model
and have me time, I’m sold!
Get as much sleep as you can
I’m not going to lie, this one is difficult for me. It is so important to me because it is the one area I have
always been high maintenance in. If I don’t get my 8 hours, you may want to cancel our afternoon
playdate….just sayin’. I find I am more irritable, judgmental, and just no fun without a good amount of
sleep. The thing is, we have a 4 month old and a toddler. There’s not a ton of sleeping going on
anyways. I have noticed lately that when baby sleeps well, instead of going to bed, I want to stay up and
spend time with hubby or watch my favorite TV show! This isn’t a bad thing, unless it’s every night. But
when I indulge every night, I begin to notice I am more on edge and don’t feel as motivated to run after
the boys If I just put myself to sleep a little earlier some nights, the next day runs more smoothly, and I
tend to have more energy.
Take 30 minutes a day to yourself
When we first had our second kiddo, I started making me a priority. This was mostly due to the fact that
I was exhausted all of the time. Thirty minutes for me became a great way to renew myself when my
hubby got home. He got to spend time with the kids by himself, and I got some time to do whatever I
wanted. Bath anyone? How about reading a good book? What would you do if you had 30 minutes to
yourself every day? This seems like a wild thing to think about, doesn’t it? If you feel like every day is
too much, start out taking 30 minutes for you three days a week or whatever you and hubby feel
comfortable with. I’m telling you, it will change the way you view your life.
Schedule time for friends
Friends are everything! They support us when we are down and keep us afloat when we are drowning.
We oftentimes lose our time with our buds when we have kids. It’s just exhausting thinking about
grabbing a drink with a friend after a long day of playing Legos. When hubby gets home, we all just want
to pass out, right? But hear me out. Relationships are important. We can do life alone, but we
shouldn’t. Friends are there for the good times and the bad times. Relating to others is a large part of
who we are as women! Don’t let that go! Get together with them as often as you can for constant
renewal! If that is one night a week, go for it. If you can only get together with the kids, something is
better than nothing. It’s just important that you try. Your life and the quality of your kids’ lives depend
I love date nights, but they can be super hard to schedule! First, they can get expensive with babysitter,
dinner, and activity costs. Second, when do we have the time? Maybe the baby is sick, we are
exhausted, we can’t find a sitter, or we have other obligations! By far, this is one of the toughest ways
to make yourself a priority on a consistent basis, but I am telling you, it will completely change your
marriage if you make it happen. When we have kids, there is no time to get to know our partner or
continue the discussion about hopes and dreams. Most of all, there’s no time for sex (or good sex ha!)
without date night. Plus, who doesn’t want to have fun with their husband? Take the initiative, surprise
your spouse, and start planning your date nights. Read about what it can do for your marriage here
Write down your goals and add those to your schedule
It’s so important not to lose our hopes and dreams when we become a mom. We need to focus some
on ourselves and on making ourselves better people. That only comes from dreaming and making goals
for your life. Living is about learning new things and accomplishing new activities. You may not see
scheduling goals as being an integral part of your happiness, but accomplishing goals makes you feel
powerful. It’s your success from all of the hard work you put in. Not only that, but it’s a way we can
model reaching goals for our children! Two birds, one stone!
Take small moments to clear your mind
These smaller activities are what we typically think of when we start to taking care of ourselves. They
are still important because every second counts. The rest of the tips will help you build a solid
foundation for putting yourself first. This tip helps you fill the in-between times with rest and relaxation.
When you don’t have time to set goals, take a date night, or have 30 minutes to yourself, these are the
activities to do to keep yourself sane in the crazy. Check out the activities on the list below to help
rejuvenate yourself after a rough day because, let’s be honest, we have plenty of those…
1. Take the scenic route home and experience nature
2. Take a bath with scented candles
3. Clean the kitchen to release the stress of the day
4. Take a dance class with a friend
5. Take a walk
6. Read a favorite magazine
7. Buy a yummy treat
8. Buy a cute top, shoes, etc.
9. Get a cute haircut
10. Get a relaxing massage or pedicure
12. Cook a fancy meal with your husband
13. Get dressed up to go nowhere
15. Visit the pool or sauna
16. Practice some yoga
17. Play with puppies at a pet shop
18. Go fishing
19. Paint some pottery with a friend
20. Watch your favorite movie
Your schedule may be filling up with you time, friend time, and family time, but this is a good thing!
You are making yourself a priority and sometimes that involves scheduling yourself into your own life!
It can feel selfish and as if we are thinking too much about ourselves. Try to think of it this way:
mommies (and sometimes, daddies) run the home, take care of the kids, and keep the status quo. We
are the most important value in keeping our family life flowing successfully, just like the heart so
easily pumps blood to so many different organs in our body. You wouldn’t forget to take care of your
heart or think it’s selfish to do so.
So, hunny, jump on the bandwagon. Make yourself a priority so you can thoroughly enjoy your family
and your life.
Meet Ashley Guntle