I was always the type of person who said I didn’t need friends. I was quick to un-friend someone if something seemed a little off and I never really made an effort in any of my friendships growing up. Now I’m seeing and understanding that there is a need for friendships. But not just any type of friends – godly friendships.
As a stay-at-home mom, I find myself, more than ever, craving that type friendship where we can grab a cup of coffee and sit down to speak life to each other and raise each other up. When I first started feeling this way, I’ll be honest, I felt a little childish, thinking to myself, “girl, you are all grown up to be craving friendships. You got stuff and people to take to care of so shake it off”. But the more I’ve tried to shake off that feeling, the stronger it gets and the more the Spirit of God is showing me through the Word, that friendship and community are extremely important for my life (and yours).
In today’s post, I am sharing 4 very significant reasons why you need to get out there and find a local community of homemakers to connect with. So grab your cup of coffee (or tea) and let’s go through this together!
To encourage and motivate each other
Homemaking won’t always be easy. There will be days where you just will want to give up and go back to an 8-5 outside of the home. It’s hard being a stay-at-home mom who literally has to do everything. But when you connect with fellow homemakers, you can find someone in them who can encourage and motivate you to keep going and remind you that through your homemaking, you are leading your family to Christ and honoring Him in doing so.
Let’s think about how we can motivate each one another to love and to do what is good.Hebrews 10:24
To learn from one another
You don’t know it all, sis. And neither do I. You need that godly friendship just as much as I do because of that very reason. Having godly friendships with other homemakers can help us learn different ways to do things. I don’t believe at all that there is a “right way” to do any of the things we do, but there are ways that help do those things in a manner that can alleviate stress, frustration, etc. Why not find those helpful tips within a community of women just like you?
Just as iron sharpens iron, friends sharpen the minds of each other.PROVERBS 27:17
To have accountability partners
There have been countless times that I have started things and never finished, whether it be personal to me or things with my family such as: bible studies, prayers, anything leading them to Christ (honestly, even marital things). I have felt like I have failed sometimes and unfortunately, I haven’t had someone, outside of my household, that I could go to and express that to, and for them to give me a stern yet respect word to get me back on track. It’s easy to fall off routine for various reason but when you have someone you can go to and let them know your faults, let them know what you have failed in, and for them to tell you, “Cynthia, you’re focusing on the wrong thing. You need to get it together because your family counts on you” (or something pertaining to your situation) and then pray for you, is something incredible in which there really aren’t words to fully describe.
Confess your faults to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man accomplishes much.james 5:16
To pray for each other
A friend that prays for you is a friend for a lifetime. The Bible clearly calls us to pray for each other and we should be doing that no matter. But when you pick up the phone and your friend tells you that the Spirit of God instructed her to pray with you in that very moment…. Whoo! I can’t even finish that sentence!!! I don’t know about you, but that’s the friendship that I need in my life. Your godly friendships don’t need to know every detail about you or what’s going on in your house for them to pray for you, because when it’s a godly friendship, their heart is already in a prayerful position and the Spirit will move them to intercede on your behalf.
First of all, I ask you to pray for everyone. Ask God to help and bless them all, and tell God how thankful you are for each of them.1 Timothy 2:1
You know I’m all about transparency on all of my platforms so I’m just gonna say this. I think God moved me to write this post for myself. Because there’s something in me that makes me hesitant when it comes to seeking community and friendships. But that’s what I’m here for. To learn and grow with you.
Sis, if you’re in need of community, I invite you to join my online community called Intentional Homemakers and feel free to pour out your heart there. I believe God is doing something great with the homemaking community and it’s time for us to unite! Satan is looking to divide women, to cause jealousy, hatred, envy, and plain ol’ division within us and we need to fight against that. Join the group! You’ve got nothing to lose.
And if your local in Indianapolis, reach out to me, sis!