Proverbs 31 is famous for “Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies”. It’s also famous for “Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last, but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised”. Those two verses have to got to be the ones I hear women reciting the most. But what about what’s in between? We can learn so much from these 21 verses when we really sit down to study what scripture is telling us.
Today, I want to share a few character traits that I am convinced are traits us wives, mothers…. Homemakers should acquire. They are simple and yet life changing for those whom we are called to gatekeep for.
The Proverbs 31 Homemaker
She brings peace, love, and joy to her husband.
Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.Proverbs 31:11-12
I love that it begins with first speaking on the character in the role of the wife, because it shows the importance of the actual relationship you have in your marriage above everything else (besides your personal relationship with God, of course). As wives, we are called to enrich our husbands life; which means to improve the quality it. But how can we do that? Verse 12 explains that the wife brings him good and not harm.
By good it means peace. Our husbands deserve a peaceful home because when there is an atmosphere of peace in our household, they can function better outside of the home.
By good it means love. It means forgiveness. Marriage isn’t always easy, but when we strive to reflect Christ in us, we can show the same type of love and forgiveness to our spouse that Jesus showed to us while on the cross.
By good it means joy. Living in happiness and contentment no matter the circumstances we face because we know that no matter what, as long as we are connected to the vine, nothing can ever separate us from God!
She wakes up early and gets the day started.
She gets ups before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plan the day’s work for her servant girls.Proverbs 31:15
She wakes up early, which means, she’s gotten some good rest because she was wise with her time the night before! And from the time she wakes up, she’s preparing breakfast and planning out the household duties.
Now, let’s be honest. It’s not always easy to wake up early, before the sun comes up, and get going. It’s hard work and that why we have to be intentional about it. Setting ourselves up for successful morning means we manage time wisely the night before.
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She is a hardworking woman.
She energetic and strong, a hard worker.Proverbs 31:17
When the Bible says that she is strong, it’s not only speaking on her physical strength, but her mental strength as well. In order for us, homemakers, to be hardworking in our homes, we need to have the energy and the mindset to do the work that needs to be done. If we jump to verse 27, it says that she is not lazy. She has already set her mindset to be productive and her body is energetic enough to get the job done because she takes care of it.
She is gentle and nurturing.
When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness.Proverbs 31:26
She doesn’t yell.
She isn’t rude.
She is gentle.
Can being at home with littles be stressful sometimes? Of course it can be. But to be homemakers that reflect the Proverbs 31 Woman, we should learn to speak in a nurturing way to our children. That means that we speak to them positive affirmations and biblical truths about who they are. That means that instead of yelling at them when they are acting out, we speak to them with love and kindness and teach them the correct way to behave. We ought to be wise in the way that we speak; may it reflect how Jesus would speak to us when we are not in the right.
She fears the Lord.
Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last, but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.Proverbs 31:30
Above everything else, as homemakers, we should strive everyday to honor God in the way that we care for our families. It means to bring them closer to God through teachings, through family worship, through modeling behaviors. It means gatekeeping; covering them in prayer and intercession and being watchful, that nothing that does not come from God may enter our homes and the lives of our husbands and children.
The Bible is such an amazing resource that we can use to learn about what God wants from us as homemakers. And Proverbs 31 is the perfect example of the traits that we should seek in prayer for God to help us obtain.
I pray that this post has been spiritual nourishment for you and that you might have learned something new from The Word of God today. But before you leave, I challenge you to read through the entire excerpt from the Bible, down below, and then, on your own, write down any other traits that stick out to you that you’d like to have and then pray over it and for it!
A WIFE OF NOBLE CHARACTER
10 A wife of noble character who can find?Proverbs 31:10-31
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.