If you’re a homemaker who does not practice self-care in any way, shape, or form, then we have to talk! I can’t tell you how many times I have heard from fellow stay-at-home moms that they are burnt out because they never get a moment for themselves. Actually, I’ve been that woman!
Burn out is a real thing in homemaking! Cooking, cleaning, caring for the kids, homeschooling, serving your husband and continuously try to date him while doing everything else can be extremely overwhelming. That’s why it’s so important to practice self-care.
And NO, self-care doesn’t have to be expensive at all. I think that’s a bad misconception we tend to hold as homemakers because one of our responsibilities as managers of the home is to save money and be frugal. News flash: You don’t even have to spend a penny to practice self-care if you don’t want to, but you do have to be intentional about planning it.
How to plan time for self-care
So how can you make time to take care of yourself? By penciling it into your calendar! Yes! You read that right. Self-care will never spontaneously happen, believe me! It’s something you have to be intentional about, just like you’d have to be intentional about caring for your marriage. Here are some tips on how you can schedule your “Me time” days!
- Schedule a month in advance so you have to time to plan for it. Look at your family calendar and make sure you have nothing going on the day you choose. You don’t want to rush this moment!
- Once you have the date (or dates), book a sitter or ask your husband to watch the kids that day.
- If you’re not actually going out and would rather practice self-care at home, you still want to talk to your hubby about taking over the kids while you go do your thing
- Budget wisely and in advance. Don’t wait until the day before to figure out how much you’re willing to spend. Think about that ahead of time so you can save for the very thing you want to do.
- Don’t think twice about it. JUST DO IT. And don’t feel guilty about it! You deserve this!
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Spiritual self-care will help you find your identity and encouragement in Christ to do the very thing you have been called to do in this season.
Homemaking is a calling, sis. It’s a ministry within itself. And in order to function in a godly manner in your home, you have to be intentional and disciplined with nourishing this area in your life.
Why practice spiritual self-care?
- To discern your intentions and motives (Hebrews 4:12)
- To find refuge in the Lord on hectic days (Psalm 18:30)
- To renew your mindset (Romans 12:2)
- To remind you of your identity (John 15:16)
Ways to practice spiritual self-care
- Read and study the Word of God
- Cultivate a heart for prayer
- Fellowship with like-minded sisters
- Journal to organize your thoughts and prayers
- Serve others in need
- Praise and worship
You did not chose me, but I chose you. I appointed you to go and produce fruit and that your fruit should remain…John 15:16
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Physical self-care will help you regain the energy you need to keep up with your children and maintain maximum productivity.
When you take care of your body, it’s easier for you to be fully present and enjoy the moment. Living day by day with constant exhaustion and not feeling well can take away from your children enjoying your presence at home and you can start to become lazy with household chores.
Why practice physical self-care?
- To cater to your physical body and it’s health
- To increase your energy level
Ways to practice physical self-care
- Try to get better sleep
- Nourish yourself with healthy food options
- Take a walk or go jogging
- Book a body massage
- Enjoy a long hot bath with relaxing aromatherapy
- Take a ‘do nothing’ day and just relax in bed
Emotional self-care will help you understand your emotions and learn how to deal with them.
Learning to deal with your emotions is very important when managing your home. As I mentioned earlier, the role of a homemaker can become very overwhelming at times and if you’re not in tune with your emotions, you might end up lashing out on your kids or husband… and that will only cause more problems on top of how you already feel.
Why practice emotional self-care?
- To understand your emotions
- To cope with your emotions correctly
- To lessen stress and anxiety
Ways to practice emotional self-care
- Keep a daily journal and write down how you’re feeling
- Talk to your mentor, pastor, elder, or even a friend that can give you sound biblical advice
- Spend time in prayer
- Set boundaries for yourself and others
- Forgive yourself and others if you need to
Social self-care is extremely important for those of us who work inside the home on a daily basis because it will help us reconnect with the people we love the most.
As a homemaker, you can tend to neglect the relationship you have with your husband as well as the friendships outside of the four walls of your home. It’s important to practice this type of self care to reconnect with those people because we were never created to do this life alone.
Why practice social self-care?
- Re-evaluate the type of friendships and relationships you need in your life
- Reconnect with family and friends you have neglected
- Have alone time with your husband to catch up and enjoy each other’s company without the kids
Ways to practice social self-care
- Schedule a date night with your hubby and make
- Have a girls night out with your best friend
- Clean out your friends list in social media
- Phone or video chat with a friend or family member
Practicing self-care is important for everyone, so forgive me if I’m being biased with this statement, but, it’s even more important for the wife and mother who is constantly taking care of everyone else and maintaining a clean and organized home. And there’s nothing wrong with that. So the next time you start to feel guilty for taking a day for yourself, or even just a few hours, don’t. You need it. And you deserve it.